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September 28th, 2016

Hello again, thank you Gina for your compliments on my clothing.

I purchase them at  SyleTry.com They have fabulous dresses and pants.

Check out there web site!

Denae


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StyleWe

September 23rd, 2016

Hello All- I just found this new site, for new looks, very unusual but sophisticated. I went up a size. The new Fall/Winter look will be LONGER COAT DRESS, and they have the, plus the newer Fall look in dress. StyleWe/

Check your sizes before you order. I use a loose fabric measuring tape.

Have fun, just looking to get ideas!

Denae


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New Fall Clothes

September 20th, 2016

Hello Ladies- As I said in my last post, the new length for dresses this Fall…. is your hem right above the knee, but only really short for evenings.

Boots with fringe are going to be really big, as well as purses with fringe. Get your basics first, that you can wear with everything and avoid colors and styles that you can’t wear with other things. First begin with basic black, white, gray, tan and ivory. Then, add in your colors with t-shirts, sweaters and your less expensive clothing. Keep your shoes, to go with the main color capsules you began your wardrobe with. Read some of earlier blogs, I have lots of information on how to coordinate, add in jewelry, and lots of clothing tips.

Email me at denaedoyle@femimage.com if you have any questions, and be sure and check out my DVDs which show you tips, you can practice at home. I can mail you DVDs or downloads!!

And, stay on your budget and resist impulse buys. It needs to go with other things in your closet.

We love clothes!!

Denae

http://www.femimage.com


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Shaving Your Legs

July 3rd, 2016

Hello Girls, I keep cutting my legs lightly when I am shaving around my knee, so I looked for the best article on the internet.  Try these tips for shaving.

 

Tips For Shaving Your Legs!

What is the best way to shave your legs to prevent a rash? For TG’s who do not have a lot of experience with shaving their legs, underarms and bikini area, this is a wonderful question!

First, I have found out how important it is to exfoliate your skin before shaving. It gets rid of all the dead skin cells that could clog up your razor, preventing a close shave. I exfoliate my face with a hand pad, and with a good exfoliating lotion, from the drug store. I also exfoliate my arms and legs with a hand pad from the drug store. This also removes sun spots, or liver spots. (This is a very important step, if you’re going to use any tanning product, as dead skin will cause the tanning product to show these spots even more).

The trick to shaving is to wet your skin and let it soften from the heat and moisture. You don’t want to shave dry skin. Shaving is a natural exfoliator and you’ll clog up the razor with dead skin while putting yourself at risk for nicks. I sit in a very warm bath with yummy soaps I purchase from a soap store. There’s no need to waste your money on shaving creams formulated especially for women. They are virtually the same as the creams sold for men, unless you enjoy the smell of women’s shaving creams. Same goes for your razor; you can use men or women’s razors. You are going to have to experiment with razors until you find the perfect one for you. Look for a razor with lubricated strips, pivoting heads and spring-mounted multiple blades. I’ve sampled several types and varieties and was amazed at how different each feels. With trial and error, I have found the Schick Quattro for Women, which has four super-thin blades and a pivoting head, works best on my legs.

Be sure to change razors or cartridges on a regular basis, a dull blade can lead to nicks. Also, it’s best not to use the razor you use in guy mode, on your face.as your facial hair can be coarser and will dull a blade.

Since your leg hairs grow down, you’ll want to start at your ankles and shave up. For your underarms, you’ll need to shave in every direction since the hair there grows every which way. When finished, apply oil or moisturizer. The skin on your legs has few oil glands and has a tendency for dryness. Don’t forget to put lotion on your feet! And, shave any hair on your feet, or toes. (Please clip those toe nails as men have thicker toe nails, and this can be a giveaway).

Ingrown hairs are caused when the hairs curl back under the skin. Avoid ingrowns by exfoliating daily and using a glycolic acid body lotion. You can purchase this, at your local drug store. (Be sure and get a glycolic acid for your face also, as a man.you will be shaving your face closer to apply makeup).

If you tend to get a few ingrown hairs try Tend Skin –an over-the-counter lotion for ingrown hairs, applying it in the morning and at night. The bumps should disappear within a couple days.

If you’re full time, consider opting for waxing, at least on your legs. You’ll find that men do have coarser hair; it won’t grow back as fast. If you’re a CD, consider purchasing a good electric shaver, which has three blade sizes. Take your leg hair down, leaving some hair for guy mode.

When you wear hose… they cover the light amount of hair you left on your legs. You can use your electric shaver, for your arms or legs. If your hair is really dark, try “Jo Lynn” body hair bleach, from any drug store. Simply rub it on, (it is like tooth paste) and wash off in 5 mins. Your hair will be lighter. This can be done, in the summer, when the sun would normally bleach out your hair. (Okay, it sounds good, right)?

Hugs,

Denae Doyle


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Feminine Movement For Thed TG Woman

July 3rd, 2016

 

Feminine Body Language & Dating For The New TG Woman

By

Denae Doyle of FemImage

Feminine gestures can send silent signals of desire—or communicate a complete lack of interest.

Are you new at going out as a woman and understanding the subtle signs of attraction or lack thereof ?  Before you launch yourself into the line of fire, take time to practice the basics of creating that first three-second impression that states Female and not “Guy In A Dress”.

 

As a ”Femininity Coach” for genetic women and now Transgendered women, I have created the most important signals a TG woman must focus on and practice– to not give off those subtle male cues. I often hear, “Is it my voice”? Or, “perhaps my beard concealer isn’t working”. Being perceived as female is not as simple as paying to have makeup, wigs, and beautiful clothing, but instead requires time, practice, and a new awareness of not falling back into moving, gesturing and speaking as a male.

 

First, lets remember that when it comes to the silent signs of sexual attraction, we are no different than the animal kingdom–which has communicated their interest in mating, by using certain body signals. Often, with females it boils down to the message “I am submissive, harmless and more approachable”. For the new TG woman, you may be wondering what are these secret signals genetic women know how to use. Welcome in, to the circle of knowing and using age old flirting techniques of confident women– and now this secret potion lies within your reach also! I have made a list of my top eight body-language cues, which I teach my TG women to be perceived as a female especially during flirtation. Let’s start at the top and work down.

 

 

Tilted Head and Lifted Shoulders

 

Women tend to have more animated head and shoulder movement, while men are socialized to hold their head and shoulders very linear, When a female is flirting, two of the most easily detected signs of attraction are (1) tilting her head slightly forward while looking up at someone from under the eyebrows and (2) smiling while lifting and rolling her shoulders. These motions indicate that a woman is softer, more compliant and interested in dating!

 

Pointed Toe and Knee Movement

 

While standing, a feminine woman keeps weigh back only on one foot, allowing the free front foot to be pointed so she can tilt and move her toe.  Next time you’re out, lift the heel of the pointed toe and allow the knee to rotate in an inward “swaying” movement and see if those new heels will suggest definite interest. This technique also creates a more “shrinking” effect, which is a less threatening profile.

 

Wrist Forward, Cupped Hands

 

When speaking, woman use softer, more flowing hand movements. Specifically, take note of whether the palms are facing upward, while gesturing and resting on a table. Practice, using slow, fluid flowing hands with a broken wrist, as if you were moving your hands under water. Keeping your wrist forward, using flowing hands, and cupping your fingers, are all gestures, which are psychologically friendlier.

 

 

 

SSS- Curve.  Everything Starts With S!

 

S-CURVE  There is a distinctly feminine way to move and hold yourself. Simply put, truly feminine women have learned to stand, sit and move their bodies in curves– mostly S curves, while men generally stand, sit and walk very linear–they stay in a box, such as the
letter “I”.   A truly feminine woman pulls her weight up by lifting her torso and bust—while twisting at the waist. Lift and twist. Lifting your weight prevents weight from dropping down into your feet, especially when wearing heels!

 

Slower Steps

 

Men walk twice as fast as most women, especially in heels. Make an effort to slow your stride down. Regardless of how nervous you are, slow everything down. There is no weight dropping down into your feet, especially when your heels are over two inches!

 

 

Shorter Stride

 

To appear more sensual and feminine, try taking half the size step– you generally take.
You will find walking in heels will require balance. By taking shorter steps, you will avoid tripping and you will appear more feminine and poised.

 

 Smaller Space

 

Men have spaces– open space between their arms and body, and between their knees and feet. Men stand linear on the floor with their weight evenly distributed on both feet. Ideally, a feminine woman (and we know all women today are not feminine) will generally close up the spaces between their arms and torso, between their knees and their feet. The smaller size capsule you have– the smaller space you will take up. By walking and standing in
less space, you appear shorter, smaller, and more feminine.

Swinging Arm

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Swinging your arms from your shoulder (as men do) may be a behavior that is giving you away. Let your arms rest gently down the side of your legs allowing for a natural delicate arm swing from your elbows. You should practice keeping your elbows turned inward and slightly
bent and touching your torso. Men generally have longer arms than women– so
bending your elbows; will give the appearance of shorter and smaller arms.

 

Now, go put on your favorite pair of heels, and create your own unique, feminine, flirtatious body language

.

Denae Doyle

 

Denae Doyle/Founder of FemImage and Denae Doyle Productions, is a Femininity Coach

and Movement/Voice Expert. Denae has instructional DVD’s for the TG woman on Feminine Movement, Gestures, Flirting, Feminine Dance Expression,  Feminine Photo Angles and Curves– which can be purchased on www.femimage.com

 

 

Denae has been featured twice on “The Discovery Channel” documentaries “Changing Sexes” and “Switched”. Denae also was featured on TBS  “He’s A Lady”, and Denae recently trained Felicity Huffman, co-star of Desperate Housewives, for her Oscar role in “TransAmerica” 2006.

 

Denae is currently taping instructional DVD’s for the TG woman. Denae also offers private consultations in Northern CA, San Francisco, Bay area–to help the serious TG woman in all areas of serious transition.

 

For additional information you can email Denae at: denaedoyle@femimage.com

PO Box 2977 Santa Cruz, CA  95065


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Cover That Beard!

July 2nd, 2016

Covering That Beard

Beards – God’s curse to cross-dressers. Many of us can’t afford or can’t have electrolysis or laser treatments to remove our beards. But don’t worry because cosmetics can help.

STEP ONE – Obtain the closest shave possible. Start with a freshly washed face, and then moisturize. Next, using a multi-blade (or a good electric razor if you prefer), shave using downward strokes then shave using upward strokes afterward. Repeat the upward strokes two to three times to get the closest shave possible. Pay special attention to your chin and the area just above your lip, around and on the edge of the lip and under your nose. Having a styptic pencil handy is good idea until you get used to shaving this closely, a styptic pencil will stop any bleeding from cuts. I can’t stress enough the importance of shaving very, very closely.

STEP TWO – With a pair of cuticle scissors, carefully trim all nose and ear hairs. Many cross dressers forget this, and even after you makeup is removed, having no visible nose or ear hair is just a good practice to get into. Remington even makes electric shavers designed just for this purpose.

Now look at your face very carefully in a mirror. You are looking for stray hairs on your nose and between your eyebrows. A tweezer will remove them quite easily.
I will talk more about plucking eyebrows in a later article.

You must remember that all store bought makeup, foundations and concealers are manufactured and designed with a woman’s face in mind and will never cover medium to heavy beards, and will cover light beards only for a very short period of time, so here’s what I suggest.

STEP THREE – Start by applying a small amount of moisturizer all over your face and neck and give it a minute to absorb. Reapply. I recommend that you use THE FANTASY GIRL professional Pink Goo. In addition to helping conceal the beard shadow in person, it hides it in photos as well. Camera flashes will definitely show heavy shadowed beards under most makeup. Apply the Pink Goo to the beard and mustache areas using a “patting” motion. You don’t need to apply very much, just a light coat over the beard and mustache area will take the “shadow” out of the beard. After the Pink Goo is applied, wait a few minutes until it dries. Next, using a dry cosmetic sponge, or your fingertips, pat on the beard cover over the beard and mustache area. After it sits a minute apply another thin coat if needed.

STEP FOUR – Next we apply the foundation, I use a cream foundation, it comes in many shades, is inexpensive, and covers very well without having that “shiny” look that many others have. Here at The Fantasy Girl salon we use a private label cream based foundation. They go on lightly, and are easy to use and look great. Using a cosmetic sponge, begin blotting the foundation over your face. Use a patting method, to ensure even coverage. Make sure you evenly blend all over, including the eyelid, eyebrow, and ear areas. What you are doing here is creating an even skin tone all over you face. Our cream foundations are perfect matches for our beard covers. You do not need very much, usually the residue on the sponge after doing the beard area will be enough to cover the eye, upper cheek and the area just under the jaw line. Most people can usually end the cream foundation coverage just under the jaw line. Going lower risks getting makeup all over your clothing, which is expensive and difficult to clean.

STEP FIVE – Apply a loose powder, which will set and smooth out the foundation. Our loose powder is the perfect tone for setting our foundation crème. I use a powder puff to apply the powder. Some people prefer placing a small amount of powder onto their palm, then dipping a powder brush into the powder and pressing the brush onto the face. The key is to actually push the powder firmly into the crème foundation and face, melding the two. This allows the foundation to set properly and slow down the process of your skin absorbing the cosmetics. Once again, use sparingly, too much powder looks terrible, and will make any lines on your face more pronounced. Take the powder puff and place in jar of powder, remove and tap lightly to shake of excess powder. Then pat the powder puff all over your face, starting at the top and moving downward. Be sure to use a “patting” motion – do not rub your face with the puff, as this will cause streaking of the foundation. Leave the loose powder on your face for 3-5 minutes to allow it to “set”. With a large powder brush, using a downward motion starting at your forehead and finishing at the base of your neck, brush any excess powder from your face. You can use 2 or more tones of foundation to create contours on the face. Use a darker tone on the jaw line and sides of the nose, and a lighter tone on the cheekbone and eye areas.

This Tip provided by Sofie Taylor The Fantasy Girl Salon, north of the Boston area.


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Cover That Beard!

July 2nd, 2016

Herewith an article, I thought would help cover those beards!

Covering That Beard

Beards – God’s curse to cross-dressers. Many of us can’t afford or can’t have electrolysis or laser treatments to remove our beards. But don’t worry because cosmetics can help.

STEP ONE – Obtain the closest shave possible. Start with a freshly washed face, and then moisturize. Next, using a multi-blade (or a good electric razor if you prefer), shave using downward strokes then shave using upward strokes afterward. Repeat the upward strokes two to three times to get the closest shave possible. Pay special attention to your chin and the area just above your lip, around and on the edge of the lip and under your nose. Having a styptic pencil handy is good idea until you get used to shaving this closely, a styptic pencil will stop any bleeding from cuts. I can’t stress enough the importance of shaving very, very closely.

STEP TWO – With a pair of cuticle scissors, carefully trim all nose and ear hairs. Many cross dressers forget this, and even after you makeup is removed, having no visible nose or ear hair is just a good practice to get into. Remington even makes electric shavers designed just for this purpose.

Now look at your face very carefully in a mirror. You are looking for stray hairs on your nose and between your eyebrows. A tweezer will remove them quite easily.
I will talk more about plucking eyebrows in a later article.

You must remember that all store bought makeup, foundations and concealers are manufactured and designed with a woman’s face in mind and will never cover medium to heavy beards, and will cover light beards only for a very short period of time, so here’s what I suggest.

STEP THREE – Start by applying a small amount of moisturizer all over your face and neck and give it a minute to absorb. Reapply. I recommend that you use THE FANTASY GIRL professional Pink Goo. In addition to helping conceal the beard shadow in person, it hides it in photos as well. Camera flashes will definitely show heavy shadowed beards under most makeup. Apply the Pink Goo to the beard and mustache areas using a “patting” motion. You don’t need to apply very much, just a light coat over the beard and mustache area will take the “shadow” out of the beard. After the Pink Goo is applied, wait a few minutes until it dries. Next, using a dry cosmetic sponge, or your fingertips, pat on the beard cover over the beard and mustache area. After it sits a minute apply another thin coat if needed.

STEP FOUR – Next we apply the foundation, I use a cream foundation, it comes in many shades, is inexpensive, and covers very well without having that “shiny” look that many others have. Here at The Fantasy Girl salon we use a private label cream based foundation. They go on lightly, and are easy to use and look great. Using a cosmetic sponge, begin blotting the foundation over your face. Use a patting method, to ensure even coverage. Make sure you evenly blend all over, including the eyelid, eyebrow, and ear areas. What you are doing here is creating an even skin tone all over you face. Our cream foundations are perfect matches for our beard covers. You do not need very much, usually the residue on the sponge after doing the beard area will be enough to cover the eye, upper cheek and the area just under the jaw line. Most people can usually end the cream foundation coverage just under the jaw line. Going lower risks getting makeup all over your clothing, which is expensive and difficult to clean.

STEP FIVE – Apply a loose powder, which will set and smooth out the foundation. Our loose powder is the perfect tone for setting our foundation crème. I use a powder puff to apply the powder. Some people prefer placing a small amount of powder onto their palm, then dipping a powder brush into the powder and pressing the brush onto the face. The key is to actually push the powder firmly into the crème foundation and face, melding the two. This allows the foundation to set properly and slow down the process of your skin absorbing the cosmetics. Once again, use sparingly, too much powder looks terrible, and will make any lines on your face more pronounced. Take the powder puff and place in jar of powder, remove and tap lightly to shake of excess powder. Then pat the powder puff all over your face, starting at the top and moving downward. Be sure to use a “patting” motion – do not rub your face with the puff, as this will cause streaking of the foundation. Leave the loose powder on your face for 3-5 minutes to allow it to “set”. With a large powder brush, using a downward motion starting at your forehead and finishing at the base of your neck, brush any excess powder from your face. You can use 2 or more tones of foundation to create contours on the face. Use a darker tone on the jaw line and sides of the nose, and a lighter tone on the cheekbone and eye areas.

This Tip provided by Sofie Taylor The Fantasy Girl Salon, north of the Boston area.


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Article For You T o Read on the Pros and Cons on Transitioning,

July 2nd, 2016

Hello Girls, I was sent this informative  article to read . Please click.

Denae

Click Here:

http://dailysignal.com/2016/06/09/i-wish-i-had-been-told-about-these-risks-before-i-had-gender-surgery/?utm_source=TDS_Email&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Top5&mkt_tok=eyJpIjoiTlRZeVlqZGhOamt3TjJVeCIsInQiOiJQaEJtaExRckVLVE1HN0kya1JmZnZOakxSbVRnNEdXb2s1OVwvSXloSDZKXC84Y3huUjdiVU5BUzE0aHlMa29XYmJHOG1sS2s3SjlMV1l5bEFjZUphN1ZpNUk4MTJ3M1BJWnRWYjdZT0N0SUpBPSJ9


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Comfortable Heels For The Trans Woman

June 19th, 2016

Many women have difficulty finding a pair of shoes that do not hurt their feet. Nothing will destroy your “feminine stride” like a pair of tight shoes! To avoid this common mistake, I recommend most TG women select a WIDE width when wearing closed toe heels or pointed toe boots. Or, select an open toe shoe or sandal and or try a sling back.  Men generally have wider feet– than most women. If you have a flat foot, it is important to select a higher quality woman’s shoe. Also, add padding to your heels, such as Good Feet.

There are very few US retail stores that carry a WIDE width in woman’s shoes in larger sizes over size 10.  Through my work, I have located the two retail best stores– for the larger and/or wide shoe and you can also purchase them over the Internet.  Nordstrom’s for the more expensive shoe and Payless Shoe Source for the less expensive shoe.–and this price range is great for any fad style.  Another great tip—use their web site!  Both stores have wonderful large color photos showing what sizes are available from their entire database and often ship for free.   www.nordstroms.com and www.paylessshoesource.com Nordstrom’s has many quality shoes in the $85.00 and up range. Shop in January when you can buy great leather shoes during their winter clearance sale. Payless Shoe Source is great for an inexpensive shoe. Always, put making tape on the bottom of the shoes…while you “test them while wearing them around the house”. If they begin to hurt your feet after a few hours, tear the masking tape off, and return the shoe. Oh yes, wear hosiery!

But, next I want to tell you about my best, new shopping tip–Aerosoles and Clarks is excellent, you can order both on line and return with NO hassel.

Aerosoles shoes have a new look and design! They no longer look like your grandmothers shoes.  Now, Aerosoles.com has a new very fashionable, style of heels, flats and sandals. They have half sizes, and Wide and up to size 12 which is ideal for a majority of TG women. I just bought my first pair, after selecting them on line from their new catalog and finally I can wear stylish heels, sandals and thongs ~ that are designed ~  to NOT hurt our feet!

How long you can stand in a pair of heels, is the true test. lThe strapes don’t cut into your feet and their heels are designed to not tilt your forward, but keep your weight right over the heel. I am throwing out all my shoes, that hurt my feet –after one hour.

The only style of shoe, they did not offer…was a cloth covered evening heel. But, the company has designed  darling jewel stone thong sandals, wedges, heels and flats. You can’t look very feminine, with a gait that screams “My Feet Are Killing Me”. I strongly recommend them.  http://www.aerosoles.com/

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Removing Dead Skin…..Your Makeup will look much smoother

June 10th, 2016

Hello Ladies- I get so many phone calls and emails asking me questions regarding Trans Womens’ makeup and TG Voice.

Please email any questions you may have, and I will post it.  Purchase a LUFFA sponge from the drug store, they are under $2.00, and they also have a Luffa Glovefor your body, put in sun to dry afterwards..

My dermatologist  suggested to buy a mictodermabration lotion from the drug store! Great, I thought….as having this done at a salon can be $100.00 for the dermabrasion. Several people suggested I purchase( from the drug store) Apricot Scrub  Exfoliaant  For All Skin Types. It is under $5.00 and all the sales ladies know exactloy where to find it. You can use your hands, as it has little sand like pieces that really remove the dead skin. After you use it a couple of times, you can lightly use the Lufffa sponge or glove for a deeper removal. Just go lightly, when you first begin. I have never had a problem, and I often use it twice a week, and my makeup now glides on…..  instead of looking as if it is dry. Give it a try! Ask your doctor, if you have sensitive akin.

This is my personal recommendation, just go slow and use light strokes. Begin, with once a week. I generally wait about 2 days before I am going out, to clean my skin. Use a light moisturizer, then apply your foundation.  Do a test run, before going out.

Denae

 

 


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